Ané Wilder
An armchair beside a cottage window with a folded knitted blanket

I'm Choosing Myself

A place for putting you first.

Choosing yourself does not come with an apology.

It is not selfish and it is not a phase. It is the ordinary, ongoing work of being a person who is also on her own list — not the last item, not the leftover time.

Ané Wilder sitting sideways on a chair beside a window with a guitar across her knee

Songs for this chapter

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01 Choosing Myself Not yet released
02 Stopped Apologising Out now
03 Walkaway Woman Out now

Letters

Written for the middle of it, not the end.

Latest letter

Be Kind to Where You Are

You cannot hate yourself into becoming someone you like.

Journal prompt

What have I been saying yes to out of habit?

There is no online journal here and nothing is stored — write it wherever you keep things, or don't write it at all.

Reflection

You are allowed to want things. You are allowed to want them out loud. Not every no needs a paragraph after it.

An acoustic guitar leaning against a wall beside a bright window

Playlist

Listening for this chapter

For the days you need your own back. Stand up straight songs.

No streaming playlist has been created for this chapter yet. When one exists it will be linked here.

You are not alone.

The Porch is where the conversation happens. Come in and sit down.

Ané Wilder walking away down a farmhouse passage toward a bright open door